Before a woman becomes a mother, a lot of questions are already running through her mind. The queries like how will she handle all those kids' trauma, her figure will not be the same again and losing freedom, etc. She worries about whether she’ll be able to deliver a healthy baby or not, whether she’ll be able to nurture him well or not, etc. These common questions arise in a woman’s mind before planning the baby. But, once they delivered the baby after putting all the efforts put in those pleasant months altogether from healthy meals, being health conscious and monitoring fetus growth, etc. The bundle of joy makes everything worth it. 

When a baby is born, they know only the mother by their voice, touch, and smell. A kid doesn’t know whether her mother is officially qualified. They only know she’s my mother and they accept her the moment unconditionally. They look forward to her. 

Once a child is born, everything changes. A mother is more concerned for her kids than anything else in the world. Her heart, mind, and soul are involved only in concerning the child.

Now let me ask you a question, Does a mother need a professional degree to qualify herself as a mother? Isn’t she blessed with her instincts to know what's happening with her kids? Why are they behaving like that? 

There is not any precious gift in the world other than the unconditional love of a mother.

A mother plays many roles in her kid’s life depending on the situation. A mother is both sugar and spice at the same time. She knows the best for her kids. A few are like sometimes she’s a teacher, friend, role model, financial controller, CEO of the house, the best chef, a doctor, a healer, a decision-maker, a counselor, a reader, and the emotional backbone, etc. You all agree that yes! The list could go endlessly.

“I feel sorry for those who don't appreciate the efforts put in by their mother, whereas a few are struggling to find their mother’s, genuine love. 

I feel sorry for those who keep on insulting their mothers in front of their friends when she’s not able to speak English or communicate well,  but they forget she educated then. So, they could learn to communicate well.

I feel sorry for those who take their mother for granted, but they don’t know God is watching over them.”

Today's kids don't have time to spend with their parents, but they have time to spend with their friends and on other events. They must understand that their parents are also growing old with us. They’ll not be here with us all the life. We all are here for a limited period. So, why waste it on something else which is not important to us? Indeed, we should spend it with our parents whose life is nothing without us. We still have time to say sorry and thank you to our parents. Just remember their hard work and try to appreciate it every time you notice it before the time passes.

The primary motive of this blog is to convey a message that no mother needs a specific qualification to be with her kids. She’s just perfect the way she is. She just needs to be a little understandable and respected. You’ll see how much her heart is an ocean of love. “Make yourself ready to dive in love with your mother every day”.

As you know, Mother’s day 2021 is around the corner. You have time to plan out the best moment to spend with your mother. So, don’t forget to share in the comment box, what’re you planning?

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What’s your parenting style?

Gone are the days when parents used to ignore their kids. They left kids with other relatives and kids of the family that they didn’t feel like kids needed attention to. It was a time when mothers used to take care of household chores and fathers used to go back to work and come back late at night. For a few, kids were not on their priority list, but now today’s parents are much smarter than earlier ones. Their full focus is on their kids. They want them to achieve and learn what they couldn’t themselves.

Nowadays, both father and mother equally take up the responsibility of their kids and support each other while raising a smart kid. They truly understand the importance of building up discipline in their kids' routine and monitoring their behavioral changes. 

Let’s talk about different parenting styles and how it matters while raising a kid.

·       Authoritative Parenting

This parenting style means as a parent, you’re putting a lot of effort into bringing up your child. You have open communication with them. You try to make a lot of rules, but you don’t force your kids to follow them. Indeed, you put them first and listen to them carefully. Authoritative parents try to use kind words, positive vibes, positive behavior, and reward systems to encourage their kids. Children raised with this style, become the best decision-maker and a successful person.

·       Authoritarian or Disciplinarian Parenting

Here, the parents take all the responsibilities of the kids and set high expectations for them. Neither they listen to their kids nor they consider their child’s feelings. These parents make their rules and ask their kids to obey all the rules by not daring to break them. The parents become agree. with this, children are mostly ignored and they become a liar in their later stages. 

·       Permissive Parenting

Under this parenting style, these parents allow their kids to be free. They don’t set high expectations for the kids and from their parenting style. They pretend to be like friends with their kids and encourage them to talk about their problems with them. Their primary motive is to appreciate the child but they forget that kids look for answers from their parents. Hence, they don’t tell them when a kid makes a terrible choice. Children raised under this parenting style mostly have low self-esteem and might have a feeling of sadness.

·       Uninvolved Parenting

At other times, with this style, parents mostly lack knowledge about their child. For example, Their kids are living in hostels and the parents are least bothered about their work assignments, etc. And they don’t involve them in family rituals and work like paying bills and managing household chores, etc. Parents don’t bother about nurturing their kids well. Kids raised under this often lead to low self-esteem and issues in behavior. For example, an uninvolved parent will give the money to his child whenever he/she will ask for it but they’ll bother where he/she is going to spend it.

 As above mentioned parenting styles come with both positive and negative comments. It keeps on changing with time. One must know what style to use and when with their kids. It becomes the duty of the parents to be with their kids in their both happy and struggling phase. Ultimately, parents should be the first approach when a kid seeks answers to the questions.

BOOKS RECOMMENDATION ON PARENTING:Walking with your child , Raising a mindful parent

What do you think which parenting style are you following?

 If you’re a new parent, what parenting style would you like to follow?

Note: You’ll get the material of what to add to the baby’s diaper bag while going for the delivery as a bonus. For that, you need to e-mail me at radhikajindal21@gmail.com after finishing reading 26 blogs daily or just fill out the google form. You can join the WhatsApp group to receive all the updates. 

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B-Blessings on the way

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D-DEPRESSION IN NEW MOTHERS

O. OH MY GOD!

Oh My god! I am a mother now is such an influential book in which the author, Abinaya Vijaykumar has talked about how a new mother deals with emotional trauma. Here, I'm with a few points which I wanted to convey to a new mother. 

Relax! Feel blessed that you’re a mother. 

BE PROUD.

Obey all the rules

They have programmed us from childhood days that we should listen to our elders and obey all the rules. But the time has changed now. Today’s generation Parents are smarter. Here, I am not comparing the parenting styles. Instead, our parents did the best in raising us up, but now today's parents have their parenting style raising the kids. Though they don't believe in obeying all the rules as set by the elders of the home. But they believe in living their life more practically. They believe in doing what they feel is right for them and their kid. They are self decision-makers.

What do you think? Is it necessary to obey all the rules once you enter into motherhood?

Organize

Is it important to be organized all the time? Undoubtedly, it helps us stay organized well. But hold on! Take a breath. We all know u have so many pending tasks like household chores, cluttering wardrobes, washing clothes, office work, and other new daily assignments. When you have a toddler at home, no matter how hard you try. No matter how much effort you put in to keep things organized, but yes! It's ok. Let them explore things. Let them create the mess. The home can be organized anytime, but their toddler time will never come back. So don't pressurize yourself much and just try to relive the moment again with your little one.

Thank God! I am a mother of a happy toddler.

OMG! oh my God

Oh No! I just kept everything at the place. Oh, no! he did potty again, I just cleaned it up. Oh, no! the baby is not sleeping. But why? Oh shit! Baby has created all the mess again. 

Such questions arise in a mother's mind when she loses her cool. Those who have kids at home can relate to me very well. But oh my God! I am a mother. Give me the power to deal with everything. 

Occasions

Being a new mother, you will be excited to dress up your kids according to the occasion. But don't forget yourself, meanwhile. Buy a dress of your favorite color and texture, etc. which will suit you the best. It'll not only make you happy but boost your self-confidence too. A Little self-care shouldn't hurt.

Overwhelming

We feel overwhelmed when we look at the face of your little one. How innocent and cute my baby looks. But kids are smarter than us. They know the technique to get their work done quickly. Even if it is by crying or showing anger, etc. we parents get melted with their innocent actions. Here, I would like to share this advice with new and first-time parents, don't feel overwhelmed and try to solve the problem in parts.

What advice would you like to share with other new mothers?

Note: You’ll get the material of what to add to the baby’s diaper bag while going for the delivery as a bonus. For that, you need to e-mail me at radhikajindal21@gmail.com after finishing reading 26 blogs daily or just fill out the google form. You can join the WhatsApp group to receive all the updates. 

This blog is a part of the blogchatterA2Z challenge powered by the blogchatter.

A-ARRIVED

B-Blessings on the way

C- C-SECTION VS NORMAL DELIVERY

D-DEPRESSION IN NEW MOTHERS