Showing posts with label secondpregnancy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label secondpregnancy. Show all posts

Monday, September 25, 2023

Your wish for the last quarter of 2023


       Your wish for the last quarter of 2023


As soon as I opened the email, the blog hop "Your wish for the last quarter of 2023" caught my attention immediately. I was considering writing down my thoughts and sharing them with you all. Including today, there are 98 days till the end of the year 2023.


Why shouldn't it have been interesting during the first half of the year? Every new year brings with it fresh inspiration, anticipation, and a path to follow. Similarly, the first half of 2023 has been spent contentedly and calmly.


I've learned a lot about how to prioritize my needs as a person and how to manage my emotions in relationships alongside how to be a productive mum. There is always something to learn, but how much time and effort you are willing to invest will determine what you learn. This year, as I continued on my road to becoming both a digital creator and a blogger, I worked on my blog and engaged in multiple collaborations.


I have a lot of wishes that I'd like then to come true, but right now am focusing on cultivating my gratitude to achieve what I actually want in life. My specific wish for the final quarter of 2023 is "to Conceive naturally" for my second bundle of joy. The moment feels right now to give my little princess a younger sibling. Every time she spots a tiny infant in the park, she anticipates it and becomes excited.


Similar to any other woman, who might be considering this, you can have several thoughts prior to making pregnancy plans. What if I am unable to handle the added responsibilities? What if my younger child feels unappreciated? I'll have to deal with all of those difficulties, such as restless nights, heartburn, headaches, acidity problems, and so forth. My entire physique will shift for the time being, once more. Will I be able to love myself?


Before accepting my new desire, I thought about a few things. For example, am I prepared to welcome a second child? Am I psychologically and physically prepared for the same? My husband, too, is he prepared for the same? Are we able to support the addition of another child financially? Am I Prepared to Take on additional Responsibilities?


She is currently 4.5 years old and asks, "Mumma, when will my sibling arrive?" I wish to join him/her in play. I simply say "Soon" since this makes my heart melt. She prayed for the same thing on Janamashtmi and Ganesh Chaturthi, and she assured me she would take good care of everything herself if I got her the little one. Seeing how quickly she is developing and picking up new information overwhelms my heart. She seems to be more eager to meet the baby than I am, therefore I must not be as excited as she is. I am still preparing myself physically, mentally, and emotionally for the process of trying to conceive. I'm also busy getting my little one ready for the new arrival.



Consequently, I also feel discouraged about how I will handle things now that I have a toddler. Every day, responsibilities expand. I am not the same person I was earlier, but I have grown significantly in order to multitask. I'm crossing my fingers and praying for the best. I'm just visualizing everything I desire and sending out all the positive energy. When I consider how many mistakes I made throughout my first pregnancy, my heart breaks a little, but we don't learn and develop without failures and experiences. We learn the most from our experiences, though. I now pay more attention to both my body and my child.


 Yes, I extend a warm invitation to happiness. I extend the enjoyment. I am eager to start my second pregnancy and want to relive that joy. Yes! I am willing to experience all the difficulties once more. I hope to become a mother soon. I realize it's not simple. But it's also not impossible. Although your heart already knows what you want, you have to convince your mind.


There is no going back at this point. There are no wounds, no suffering, and no sadness. 'A NEW ME' is who I am. All I want is to be at my best. I give myself permission to forgive myself for all of my errors. I forgive everybody. I no longer hold expectations for people. I am working so hard to achieve happiness. I'm looking forward to a long and happy life. To show my young princess that her mother is a powerful woman, I want to do this. For the chance to see her smile, I would do everything for her.


Affirmations to stay positive:


1. "I am open to happiness, and I choose to embrace joy in every moment.

2. I deserve to be happy, and I attract positivity and happiness into my life effortlessly.

3. Happiness flows through me, radiating from my heart and filling my life with love, laughter, and contentment.

4. I am a magnet for happiness, and I choose to share my joy with others, spreading happiness wherever I go."

 This post is a part of Blogchatter Blog Hop 

Note: I sincerely hope you enjoyed reading my blog. I treated you as a friend by sharing all of my private ideas. I hope that a lot of women who consider having a baby later on will read this blog.

“The best present a mother can offer to her child is to be a mother, and the next best gift is to give her child a sibling.”- Radhika

“Choice is yours”


I would also love to know about your latest wish for the last quarter of 2023. 

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Friday, June 2, 2023

Are You Both Excited for Your Second Pregnancy?


Are You Both Excited about Your Second Pregnancy?





If you're trying for a second child, you've clicked on the right blog post link. It demonstrates that you are already a messy mother, which is so lovely. It is not easy to think about the second pregnancy when you already have a toddler around.


The time when a mixed family's parenting style was entirely different is long gone. The modern parenting approach, however, is distinct from the conventional parenting approach. Parents are more focused on the academic, personal, and professional development of their children. They focus on their children's development and make them prepare for the situation appropriately.


Although it can be difficult to plan for a second child, the same amount of mental effort is required. If you and your husband decide to plan, it is a joint decision. Whether you want to plan it or not is something you and your husband must decide together. Before attempting a second pregnancy, you should think about a few factors.


1.   Discuss with your partner

2.   Reflect on your first pregnancy

3.   The age gap between the first and the second child (Sibling age gap)

4.   Evaluate your readiness

5.   Prioritize your health 

6.   Be Financially prepared

7.   The choice is yours


The most crucial of the aforementioned is "You need to be mentally prepared for this" more than anything else. Everything will fall into place if you decide to have another child, if you make that decision.  Undoubtedly, we have a lot of essential roles to play in our lives nowadays, but being a mother comes first.



11.  Discuss with your partner


Yes! Your husband is the first person you should talk to and learn about his expectations before you discuss them with anybody else. There should be understanding on both sides. You two need to sit aside some time to talk about your second pregnancy and how life will alter once more after it. Whether or not you want to plan for this child now. Is your husband prepared to take on this new role? Does he need more time to consider this?

2.            Reflect on your first pregnancy


As first-time expecting couple, we are always learning new things. We can all recall how things were and what to expect. You are fully aware of how your body responds to various situations. Everyone's pregnancy journey is diverse and includes a variety of unique experiences. Just give your first pregnancy some time to take effect. Additionally, you can respond to a few queries in your journal, such as "What went wrong with your first pregnancy?" 

What succeeded? What further preparations do you need to make at this time to ensure a healthy pregnancy? How did your relationship alter after having your first child, and how can you better sustain it with the second? How to handle a second pregnancy in addition.

3.           The age gap difference between the first and the second child (Sibling age gap)


According to the study, there should be an ideal spacing of 18 to 24 months between two siblings. However, it's generally good to have a gap of at least 3 years between the two children. Since the mother has already fully recovered by this point, the first child has also grown a bit independent and feels confident in his or her environment. The need for good health outweighs taking on unnecessary obligations.


4.           Evaluate your readiness


This is a further crucial factor to consider when determining whether you are prepared to plan a second pregnancy or not. The best course of action is to obtain the results of the blood tests and avoid nutritional and vitamin deficiencies. You may need to examine your own readiness—both physically and mentally—for this. even though your health comes first. If all goes according to plan, you should keep working on the second child.


5.           Prioritize your health 


Prioritize your health as we've covered in the above paragraphs. Well-being is riches. Start consuming a healthy, high-fiber diet that includes more vitamin C and plant-based foods. Drink 3 liters of water daily and engage in any physical exercise you enjoy, such as walking, running, dancing, Zumba, etc. You will benefit from maintaining your fitness both physically and emotionally. In my first book, The Essence ofMotherhood, I mentioned how to take care of your health in chapter no. 5.


6.  Be Financially prepared


Yes! This is yet another important issue to think about before planning your second pregnancy. You should discuss it with your spouse while sitting down at the table. Everything in today's world, including the cost of children's education, clothing, food, and other expenses, is so busy.



7.           The choice is “yours”


Once more, the newborn will demand a lot of your time, effort, and yes, attention. Are you prepared for another lovely stage of life since "all you will have to do is everything again"? Are you prepared for the subsequent few nights of insomnia?

You can always ask your parents and other people for assistance, but you can't rely on them to raise your children. So, whether or not to have a second child is entirely up to you.


By posing important questions, I'm not trying to scare you but rather get you ready for them. Please disregard advice from others that you should prepare for a second child if you have a girl or the opposite if you have a boy. This will also be covered in a subsequent blog post. Come on, set aside some time to relax and find a peaceful spot. Before you start making plans for the second pregnancy, list all the advantages and disadvantages. The biggest choice you and your husband will ever make is this.



Affirmations for planning for the Second pregnancy:

1.     I am ready and excited to embark on the journey of planning for my second pregnancy.

2.     I trust in the timing and natural process of conception for our family.

3.     My partner and I are I am grateful for the opportunity to create a sibling bond between my children, fostering love and connection within our family.

4.     I am patient and trust that everything is unfolding perfectly in divine timing.

5.     I am grateful for the opportunity to create a sibling bond between my children, fostering love and connection within our family.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the same in the comment section below. 

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 What are your suggestions for planning for the second pregnancy?

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