Friday, June 2, 2023

Are You Both Excited for Your Second Pregnancy?


Are You Both Excited about Your Second Pregnancy?





If you're trying for a second child, you've clicked on the right blog post link. It demonstrates that you are already a messy mother, which is so lovely. It is not easy to think about the second pregnancy when you already have a toddler around.


The time when a mixed family's parenting style was entirely different is long gone. The modern parenting approach, however, is distinct from the conventional parenting approach. Parents are more focused on the academic, personal, and professional development of their children. They focus on their children's development and make them prepare for the situation appropriately.


Although it can be difficult to plan for a second child, the same amount of mental effort is required. If you and your husband decide to plan, it is a joint decision. Whether you want to plan it or not is something you and your husband must decide together. Before attempting a second pregnancy, you should think about a few factors.


1.   Discuss with your partner

2.   Reflect on your first pregnancy

3.   The age gap between the first and the second child (Sibling age gap)

4.   Evaluate your readiness

5.   Prioritize your health 

6.   Be Financially prepared

7.   The choice is yours


The most crucial of the aforementioned is "You need to be mentally prepared for this" more than anything else. Everything will fall into place if you decide to have another child, if you make that decision.  Undoubtedly, we have a lot of essential roles to play in our lives nowadays, but being a mother comes first.



11.  Discuss with your partner


Yes! Your husband is the first person you should talk to and learn about his expectations before you discuss them with anybody else. There should be understanding on both sides. You two need to sit aside some time to talk about your second pregnancy and how life will alter once more after it. Whether or not you want to plan for this child now. Is your husband prepared to take on this new role? Does he need more time to consider this?

2.            Reflect on your first pregnancy


As first-time expecting couple, we are always learning new things. We can all recall how things were and what to expect. You are fully aware of how your body responds to various situations. Everyone's pregnancy journey is diverse and includes a variety of unique experiences. Just give your first pregnancy some time to take effect. Additionally, you can respond to a few queries in your journal, such as "What went wrong with your first pregnancy?" 

What succeeded? What further preparations do you need to make at this time to ensure a healthy pregnancy? How did your relationship alter after having your first child, and how can you better sustain it with the second? How to handle a second pregnancy in addition.

3.           The age gap difference between the first and the second child (Sibling age gap)


According to the study, there should be an ideal spacing of 18 to 24 months between two siblings. However, it's generally good to have a gap of at least 3 years between the two children. Since the mother has already fully recovered by this point, the first child has also grown a bit independent and feels confident in his or her environment. The need for good health outweighs taking on unnecessary obligations.


4.           Evaluate your readiness


This is a further crucial factor to consider when determining whether you are prepared to plan a second pregnancy or not. The best course of action is to obtain the results of the blood tests and avoid nutritional and vitamin deficiencies. You may need to examine your own readiness—both physically and mentally—for this. even though your health comes first. If all goes according to plan, you should keep working on the second child.


5.           Prioritize your health 


Prioritize your health as we've covered in the above paragraphs. Well-being is riches. Start consuming a healthy, high-fiber diet that includes more vitamin C and plant-based foods. Drink 3 liters of water daily and engage in any physical exercise you enjoy, such as walking, running, dancing, Zumba, etc. You will benefit from maintaining your fitness both physically and emotionally. In my first book, The Essence ofMotherhood, I mentioned how to take care of your health in chapter no. 5.


6.  Be Financially prepared


Yes! This is yet another important issue to think about before planning your second pregnancy. You should discuss it with your spouse while sitting down at the table. Everything in today's world, including the cost of children's education, clothing, food, and other expenses, is so busy.



7.           The choice is “yours”


Once more, the newborn will demand a lot of your time, effort, and yes, attention. Are you prepared for another lovely stage of life since "all you will have to do is everything again"? Are you prepared for the subsequent few nights of insomnia?

You can always ask your parents and other people for assistance, but you can't rely on them to raise your children. So, whether or not to have a second child is entirely up to you.


By posing important questions, I'm not trying to scare you but rather get you ready for them. Please disregard advice from others that you should prepare for a second child if you have a girl or the opposite if you have a boy. This will also be covered in a subsequent blog post. Come on, set aside some time to relax and find a peaceful spot. Before you start making plans for the second pregnancy, list all the advantages and disadvantages. The biggest choice you and your husband will ever make is this.



Affirmations for planning for the Second pregnancy:

1.     I am ready and excited to embark on the journey of planning for my second pregnancy.

2.     I trust in the timing and natural process of conception for our family.

3.     My partner and I are I am grateful for the opportunity to create a sibling bond between my children, fostering love and connection within our family.

4.     I am patient and trust that everything is unfolding perfectly in divine timing.

5.     I am grateful for the opportunity to create a sibling bond between my children, fostering love and connection within our family.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the same in the comment section below. 

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  1. We had a big gap before we planned our second child because we needed the elder one to be old enough to take care of herself, we needed finances too. The pressure was high from in-laws to have another baby sooner but these are things we need to really plan well in today's times.

  2. These are valid and thoughtfully written pointers. Having one or two kids is totally the couple's personal choice. Same goes for the age gap. Even if they say it takes a village to nature a child but it is the sole responsibility of the parents to take care of their children. Being mentally, physically and financially prepared is very important.

  3. I feel every pregnancy differs from the other one and the pointers which you have shared are superb and have to keep in mind while you are new phase of life.

  4. You have provided extremely valuable insights and pointers. Personally, I initially did not want to have a second child, but I eventually succumbed to pressure from my in-laws. However, the new generation is making more relevant choices these days, especially when it comes to family planning. Nuclear families now carefully consider the decision of having a second child. The involvement and support of husbands as hands-on fathers has become crucial in this process.
    Interestingly, despite my initial hesitation, I found that my second pregnancy turned out to be a positive experience for me both physically and mentally. Thank you for sharing your perspective and these valuable observations.

  5. The topic is good and the pointers are excellent and I will love to share the same with my friends planning for a second baby. But these plannings dont work for a key percentage of the couples of this era as natural pregnancy numbers have reduced due to issues like PCOS and other infertility issues found in men and women. So yes those who are having correct and pain free cycles along with peace of mind will find the pointers quite useful and I agree to that.

  6. This is a right post that every couple who plans their second child should be reading. A lot of valid pointers that I could bring myself to be in unison