5 Strategies to Rediscover Your Love for Yourself

5 Strategies to Rediscover Your Love for Yourself

 

 

Someone wise once said, "If you love yourself, you can love anyone in the world." We have been programming our thoughts from birth. We respect elders and listen to our parents/teachers, but how often do we consider practicing self-love? It appears to be a difficult task. Isn't that right? It's time to keep thinking about others, such as family, parents, children, colleagues, and spouses. But now it's time to consider yourself. It's time to prioritize yourself.

Why do we neglect to spend time with ourselves?

 

Here are five techniques to practice self-love.

 

1.   1. Define what's holding you back 

 

Everything becomes a lot easier once we realize what the problem is. What do you think is really keeping you from liking yourself? Why aren't you making it a priority? Try to come up with a solution while sitting quietly.

 

2.   2. Heal yourself

 

Every day, there are so many things going on around us. When things appear to be a mess, we become upset. The tone of our interactions hurts us. There are also unforeseen occurrences that we encounter. You should set aside some time for yourself to thoroughly recuperate. What do you enjoy the most? It's time to figure out what your areas of interest are. You should strive to spend at least one hour per day doing something you enjoy. It could be reading a book, writing, meditating, painting, dancing, or planning a vacation, among other things. You'll discover how to make your soul happy, and you'll heal naturally. Let go of the past and embark on a new journey every day.

 

 

   3. Learn to say 'No'

 

We constantly make time to assist others. But we frequently forget that we are our own priority. I understand that saying no to others may be difficult for some, but it will benefit you. You should not overthink things, and you should respect your time. If you make time for self-love, you'll have more time to do the things you want to do.

 

 

4.   4. Set Goals

 

It is, once again, the most crucial component. Knowing what your short-term and long-term goals are is the first step in practicing self-love. Setting goals will assist you in achieving your objectives. It will keep you motivated at every stage. To get things done, create a vision board and see it every day.

 

 

5.   5. Let it GO

 

Finally, but not least. Self-love is not selfish, but it is required. It is necessary to let go of the negative belief that self-love is unattainable. Nothing like that exists. Everything is achievable if you do it from the bottom of your heart. Simply trying to make up your mind will show you how things are changing for the better.

Here are a few affirmations to remind yourself to practice Self-Love.

• I am worthy of love just for being who I am.
• Love is a birthright for each and every one of us, me included.
• I am enough.
• I am deserving of contentment, joy, and peace.
• I deserve to feel happy and full of life.
• I belong here.
• I am kind to others and inspire others to be kind and that feels great.
• I believe in my goodness.

 

You can read the most well-known book "You can Heal Your life" by Louis Hay. Also, "I Love Myself" by Vandana Sehgal is one of my favorite novels. 

 

Please share in the comments section below: How do you show yourself, love? What do you appreciate about yourself? What else are you doing to love yourself endlessly? 

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Are You Both Excited about Your Second Pregnancy?

Congratulations!

If you're trying for a second child, you've clicked on the right blog post link. It demonstrates that you are already a messy mother, which is so lovely. It is not easy to think about the second pregnancy when you already have a toddler around.

The time when a mixed family's parenting style was entirely different is long gone. The modern parenting approach, however, is distinct from the conventional parenting approach. Parents are more focused on the academic, personal, and professional development of their children. They focus on their children's development and make them prepare for the situation appropriately.

Although it can be difficult to plan for a second child, the same amount of mental effort is required. If you and your husband decide to plan, it is a joint decision. Whether you want to plan it or not is something you and your husband must decide together. Before attempting a second pregnancy, you should think about a few factors.

1.   Discuss with your partner

2.   Reflect on your first pregnancy

3.   The age gap between the first and the second child (Sibling age gap)

4.   Evaluate your readiness

5.   Prioritize your health 

6.   Be Financially prepared

7.   The choice is yours

The most crucial of the aforementioned is "You need to be mentally prepared for this" more than anything else. Everything will fall into place if you decide to have another child, if you make that decision.  Undoubtedly, we have a lot of essential roles to play in our lives nowadays, but being a mother comes first.

11.  Discuss with your partner

Yes! Your husband is the first person you should talk to and learn about his expectations before you discuss them with anybody else. There should be understanding on both sides. You two need to sit aside some time to talk about your second pregnancy and how life will alter once more after it. Whether or not you want to plan for this child now. Is your husband prepared to take on this new role? Does he need more time to consider this?

2.            Reflect on your first pregnancy

As first-time expecting couple, we are always learning new things. We can all recall how things were and what to expect. You are fully aware of how your body responds to various situations. Everyone's pregnancy journey is diverse and includes a variety of unique experiences. Just give your first pregnancy some time to take effect. Additionally, you can respond to a few queries in your journal, such as "What went wrong with your first pregnancy?" 

What succeeded? What further preparations do you need to make at this time to ensure a healthy pregnancy? How did your relationship alter after having your first child, and how can you better sustain it with the second? How to handle a second pregnancy in addition.

3.           The age gap difference between the first and the second child (Sibling age gap)

According to the study, there should be an ideal spacing of 18 to 24 months between two siblings. However, it's generally good to have a gap of at least 3 years between the two children. Since the mother has already fully recovered by this point, the first child has also grown a bit independent and feels confident in his or her environment. The need for good health outweighs taking on unnecessary obligations.

4.           Evaluate your readiness

This is a further crucial factor to consider when determining whether you are prepared to plan a second pregnancy or not. The best course of action is to obtain the results of the blood tests and avoid nutritional and vitamin deficiencies. You may need to examine your own readiness—both physically and mentally—for this. even though your health comes first. If all goes according to plan, you should keep working on the second child.

5.           Prioritize your health 

Prioritize your health as we've covered in the above paragraphs. Well-being is riches. Start consuming a healthy, high-fiber diet that includes more vitamin C and plant-based foods. Drink 3 liters of water daily and engage in any physical exercise you enjoy, such as walking, running, dancing, Zumba, etc. You will benefit from maintaining your fitness both physically and emotionally. In my first book, The Essence ofMotherhood, I mentioned how to take care of your health in chapter no. 5.

6.  Be Financially prepared

Yes! This is yet another important issue to think about before planning your second pregnancy. You should discuss it with your spouse while sitting down at the table. Everything in today's world, including the cost of children's education, clothing, food, and other expenses, is so busy.

7.           The choice is “yours”

Once more, the newborn will demand a lot of your time, effort, and yes, attention. Are you prepared for another lovely stage of life since "all you will have to do is everything again"? Are you prepared for the subsequent few nights of insomnia?

You can always ask your parents and other people for assistance, but you can't rely on them to raise your children. So, whether or not to have a second child is entirely up to you.

By posing important questions, I'm not trying to scare you but rather get you ready for them. Please disregard advice from others that you should prepare for a second child if you have a girl or the opposite if you have a boy. This will also be covered in a subsequent blog post. Come on, set aside some time to relax and find a peaceful spot. Before you start making plans for the second pregnancy, list all the advantages and disadvantages. The biggest choice you and your husband will ever make is this.

Affirmations for planning for the Second pregnancy:

1.     I am ready and excited to embark on the journey of planning for my second pregnancy.

2.     I trust in the timing and natural process of conception for our family.

3.     My partner and I are I am grateful for the opportunity to create a sibling bond between my children, fostering love and connection within our family.

4.     I am patient and trust that everything is unfolding perfectly in divine timing.

5.     I am grateful for the opportunity to create a sibling bond between my children, fostering love and connection within our family.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the same in the comment section below. 

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 What are your suggestions for planning for the second pregnancy?

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 5 Ways a Husband  Can Support His Wife During Her Periods

 

“Our society already considers periods as a taboo, making every girl feel more irritated! Dear men, let’s not add to that irritation because certainly that’s going to backfire and you blaming it on us PMS-ing is not the way to calm us down.” - Reference from bollywoodshaddis.com.

 

 

The time has gone when women used to be shy talking about periods. Now, this has become a common topic. Even men are becoming more aware of it now and helping their girlfriends and wife during their periods. A Period is the part of the menstrual cycle when a woman bleeds from her vagina for a few days. And, they’re going through a lot of hormonal changes like stress, cramps, abdominal pain, mood swings, low energy, and whatnot?

 

You should know how to make her feel better and that will help you in improving your relationships. This way, you both will understand each other’s needs, too.

Here’re a few ways by which you can support her during her menstruation days.

1.    Extra Affection

 

As I have previously mentioned, a lot of hormonal changes are happening. She needs your extra affection and cares apart from her daily routine. You may need to identify what exactly she is looking for. When a woman is in pain, she won’t say it directly but wants you just to be with her. These comfort her somehow. She deserves to be pampered, especially during those days of every month.

2.             Spend Quality time with her

 

She doesn't need any expensive gifts or special treats, but she needs your time and attention. There is no special gift than giving your precious time to your spouse. You’re the only one with whom she can talk endlessly. She can argue, fight, cry, or do anything. You can give her a little massage on her feet, back, or head, depending on whatever she enjoyed the most.

For e.g. If you both are sitting in a room but busy on the phone all the time. It doesn’t mean that you both have spent quality time together.

Quality time includes comfort, communication, and giving attention to each other.

3.             Watch a movie/Read a book/Listen to some Music

 

This is another great relaxation technique to make her feel comfortable. Trying watching a movie, reading a book, or listening to some music of her choice. This will make her relaxed, both physically and mentally. Meanwhile, you can do cuddling, giving hugs, and giving a kiss on the cheek can make her day.

4.             Comfort her

 

There are infinite things your partner does for you every single day. Now, it’s your time to pamper her a little more. Don’t forget to offer her tea/coffee or a glass of water. She might love it or not, but she’ll appreciate the efforts you have put in. You can also provide her with medicines, a hot-water bag for the pain, or anything that she is craving, like sweets, chocolates, etc.

5.             Stay Primed

 

The period comes every month. You may need to prepare yourself a little in advance for this. Just provide the things she needs. Help her out in managing household chores, taking care of kids, and buying groceries. You can download a few love messages like “I Love you”, “I Understand” “All is well” or any memorable pics, to share with her to lighten up her mood. You may need to identify what your partner loves.

 

Try helping your partner as much as you can, especially during the first two days. She’ll love you even more. It’s just a matter of a few days, so this is the chance to give your best to your partner in need. Make her feel special, make her smile, and do a little dance together. She will remember your gestures and feel blessed to have you as her soulmate. Hope these tricks will work great for your relationship.

 

Remember, every person and every menstrual cycle is different, so it's essential to communicate openly with your wife about her specific needs and preferences during this time. By being understanding, supportive, and actively engaged, you can help create a nurturing environment that helps your wife feel cared for and loved during her periods.

 

For husbands, what do you do to make your partner feel special during her periods?

 

For women who are reading this blog, how do you want your partner to make you feel special? Please share in the comment box below.

How Parents Can Encourage Their Kids to Speak Up

From the moment kids start speaking, we also teach them how to be quiet. Kids are told to use quiet voices just about everywhere they go (stores, classes, and waiting rooms, to name a few). When children also learn how to express themselves with confidence and assert their needs and ideas, they experience increased self-esteem, positive peer relationships, and better school performance. The ability to speak up helps kids manage their emotions, and conflicts in a healthy way.

Why is it important for your child to speak?

You are out for a walk in a park. Your neighbor comes and asks the child, “Why did you miss the school today?  The child is a little hesitant to answer. Seeing this, without wasting a moment, you answer for him. Have you ever thought about what damage this cost? Whenever you speak up for him you make him meek and dependent.

Now I have a question for such parents – Why don’t you allow your child to speak for himself?

Q. Do you think you are doing any good for your child?

Q. Do you know by not allowing the child to use his voice you are hurting his self-esteem?

If you don’t step in, you give your child a chance to think about what to say and how to say it. If you answer for your child that is disrespecting your child and he will feel you don’t believe in him. A child has a right to express his thoughts and opinions. He is capable enough to answer such questions.

We all know today’s child is tomorrow’s leader. If you really want him to contribute to society when he grows up, allow him to learn how to properly communicate with other people.

Suppose someone asks him his name and the child doesn’t respond, a wise parent would say, “Come on dear, he is asking you a question. Please do reply.” A wise parent will never reply to the child because he understands that as parents it is our job to teach our children how to engage with others. By not giving them a chance to speak you are limiting your child’s mental growth and lowering his self-confidence.

Let your child answer and decide simple things for himself, like:

• ·      Ordering food for himself at a restaurant
• ·      In a hotel he wants to go to the washroom, let him ask the waiter and find one for himself
• ·      He was not able to do the homework yesterday for some reason. He should have the courage to go and tell the teacher
• ·      Saying “No” for certain things

You are not supposed to speak for your child all the time. Sometimes he might be too shy or nervous or if you want to protect your child, you may have to reply for your child. Fine but don’t allow this to happen frequently. Let them speak up. By communicating with others, they will be prepared for the times when you won’t be by their side.

Take out time each day to have thoughtful conversations with your child. It can be at the dinner table or when you are doing something in the kitchen – ask him his opinion. Show some curiosity about his thoughts and opinions, and encourage him by saying – “Really amazing or very interesting.” Or “I am highly impressed. Tell me something more about it.”

Always keep in mind that as a parent your job is to prepare your child to live without you in the future. Show your faith in his abilities and encourage him to come out of his comfort zone. Let him build his independence and be capable of living up to his full potential.

Let’s not shush them, let’s teach them to use their voice effectively.

Points to remember:

• §  Understand the reason behind the shyness of your child
• §  Developing the ability to speak up takes time and practice
• §  Encourage the child to speak
• §  Teach them the benefits of self-advocacy
• §  Encourage your child to add to a conversation
• §  Give them the right words and confidence to speak

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